YES or NO: How to Avoid Bad Relationships

Bad Relationships

Tired of spinning your wheels and wasting your time with unhealthy relationships: degrading relationships, high maintenance relationships, controlling relationships, fake relationships, abusive(physically, mentally, emotionally and even verbally) relationships, that it's driving you completely insane? There's always drama, jealousy and unnecessary foolishness. Nothing you do or say seems to be satisfactory. They're self-centered and self-absorb. It's their way or the highway. They are ALWAYS right and you are ALWAYS wrong. My God, What gives!!! They are judgmental and have something to say about everything and everybody, and never look at themselves in the mirror. But, yet you find yourself constantly getting connected to those very same people you vowed to avoid.

In the beginning, It seemed like it was God-sent. Everyone got along perfectly. Finally, you exhale. At last, you have found a real genuine relationship. You were starting to believe that genuine relationships no longer exist...But, only TIME will time...

You are still a little skeptical because you have opened up so many times before, giving people the benefit of the doubt, and as a result you get your feelings hurt, talked about, disrespected, rumors spreaded about you that's not true..

They smile in your face, All the time they want to take your place, The back stabbers, Back stabbers!!! Preach, O'JAYS, PREACH!!!!

Insert: (At least if they're going to spread something, just make sure it's the truth, and spread it smoothly, that's all I ask, my goodness). 

Whoever made up this saying: 

"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me,," Lied, Lied, Lied...Let the truth be told, this only applies to those who are dead and gone, and sleeping in their grave.. We can fake it all day but the truth still stands...Words Can Be Painful.

Ok, enough of that. On to the next type of relationship.

Intimate Relationships:

Ok, here we go...you are approached by the opposite sex and they expressed interest. You are flattered. Your self-esteem just escalated to an all time high.. You are cheesing from ear to ear. You even think you just maybe interested too, especially, if you've been waiting forever and a day. This is really looking promising right about now. I am getting old., you say to yourself. I haven't been in a serious relationship for years. Maybe this IS God. Maybe God has finally sent my mate. Oh WOW!!!THANK YOU LORD!!! It's about time.

Hold up, Wait a minute,, let me put some sense in it,, (I'm sorry I went wayyyy back, it was just too tempting, I couldn't resist)...don't mine me, anyway, moving on...smile...

Hold on, Slow your roll. Let's just pump the breaks for a second. Don't just dive into another unhealthy and unpromising relationship head first, especially not out of desperation. You don't want to go down that same road again, wasting your energy, time and emotions on someone who's not apart of your future, Do you? Yea, I didn't think so. I totally understand. Been there, done that too.

So, how can we be so sure this time isn't like the other times? How can we avoid bad, unhealthy relationships and the drama that comes with it? How do we know if it's God or not? When to say YES or NO to a relationship? Well,glad you asked:

Say "YES" when:

• It lines up with the Word of God
• You have prayed and acknowledged God
• You received a confirmation from GOD
• It's done decent and in order
• You are at peace in your spirit
• There's no confusion
• You have thoroughly thought out the consequences
• You have sought godly counsel
• Boundaries are established
• There's accountability
• It's Spirit lead and NOT flesh lead

Say "NO" when:

• It's contrary to the Word
• You have prayed and no answer or confirmation
• You're being controlled/manipulated/intimidated/disrespected
• There is an uneasiness
• You're being pressured, rushed, used, unsure and ashamed
• It's an unrealistic offer
• You feel condemned, convicted, and guilty
• You can't be yourself
• You haven't sought godly counsel
• Your desires become priority over God's desires
• Your need for a mate is greater than your need for God
• There is flesh and sexual immorality involved 
• There is confusion and drama
• It's on the down low

So, these are some ways that should help you avoid bad relationships. God will always give you an answer, warnings and confirmations. There are always tell, tell signs but sometimes we choose to ignore them, because it's what we want.  

Just open your spiritual eyes and discern before connecting. Trust the voice of God. He will never lead you wrong.

Remember some people come into our life for a reason, a season, or a life time. Don't turn seasonal relationship into permanent ones, you will regret it.

If this helped a little or if you can relate to any of these relationships, please spread the love and share on your social media links below...

Who Are You?
You are spiritually mature to discern a  bad relationship. You are strong and wise enough to know when to say YES or NO.

Have a Bless and Purposeful Day,
TPL 😘😘 😘